OH YE MOTHER-IN-LAW WHY ARE YOU SO CRUEL TO YOUR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW?

A lot was said yesterday about how a daughter-in-law should treat her mother-in-law. Today’s post is vice-versa ‘cause our attention will be drawn to mothers-in-law. Enjoy the story below and pick out the lesson (Please, note that the choice of names for this story is not affiliated to anyone).

Dolapo gets engaged to Abbey and Abbey tells her that his family is going to love her especially his mom. “You are like the daughter she never had”, Abbey tells Dolapo. Dolapo gets so excited and fantasized about her soon to be mother-in-law. She expects a super supportive and extra loving woman.

They got married shortly and few months after their wedding, the mother-in-law came visting. How did it go? Did Dolapo’s fantasy about her mother-in-law come true? Find out!

MOTHER-IN-LAW: (knocks the door), is anyone at home?

DOLAPO: (opens), Ha! Mama, welcome.

LESSON: They just got married; allow them to enjoy their home at least for the first year except she puts to bed.

MOTHER-IN-LAW: (she enters and looks around the house. She discovers that the house is so beautiful and a duplex). Sooooo, this is what my son has been spending all his money on?

DOLAPO: (Surprised at the comment) No mama, we only want the house to look good and accommodating.

LESSON: Which do you prefer, mansion or manger? Appreciate the beauty of the house. If you think they are spending too much, advise them politely and don’t create a scene.

MOTHER-IN-LAW: (Watches her prepare meal). What is this you are cooking? Is this the rubbish my son has been eating?

DOLAPO: (Sad, but manages to put on a smile). Yes ma, he loves and enjoys the meal.

LESSON: No now, don’t react that way. Things may have changed. Your son may no longer like the meal you prepared when he was in your house. Leave her to cook what she wants. Afterall, he is not just your son but her husband too. There are better ways to approach her.

MOTHER-IN-LAW: (Dolapo brings mama’s meal and the glass cup mistakenly fell and broke. Almost immediately, she shouts on her in the presence of her husband). Eeeewo! Chai! Common glass cup you cannot carry, you don’t even know how to do anything. (Faces her son), the food you are eating, I am the one that taught her o.

DOLAPO: She sobs and enters the room.

LESSON: Haba! You’ve gone too far. Don’t criticize her in front of her husband. What do you want to achieve? You want your son to hate her and love you? Even if you were the one that taught her how to cook, it’s not compulsory you say announce it.

MOTHER-IN-LAW: (She prepares in the morning to leave after staying for 3months, she calls her son on the phone to inform him)

DOLAPO: (She dished mama’s food and kept it on the dining table; she searched for mama all over the house, only to discover that she had gone. She sat down confused).

LESSON: A whole three months? It’s too much na. Gradually, you will loose your value if you are too common in that house. Also, you don’t have to leave without informing your daughter-in-law. She is as important as your son.

****THE END****

Every mother-in-law must know these.

     1. You are no longer in charge of your son; understand the leaving and cleaving part of the scriptures, there is a limit to what you can do.

      2. Accept her for who she is, you are different from her. Don’t expect her to have grown to your lev       

     3. Your mother-son relationship will change after his marriage because he is now more responsible. Things cannot remain the same. 

   

     As a mother-in-law, I know it could be difficult relating with your daughter-in-law at times especially when she is rude and disrespectful. Don’t relent. Below are few things you should do.

    1.  Pray for her.

    2.  Compliment her.

    3.  Think the best of her.

    4.  Be thoughtful and generous.

    5.  Love Jesus, then you will love her.

I believe I have been able to balance issues from both sides. (This is the concluding part of yesterday’s post).  

The truth is this, only Jesus can give you peaceful homes. The secret of becoming a good daughter-in-law and a good mother-in-law lies in Jesus. Call on Jesus to help you. Give your life to Christ today and you will  be renewed.

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Have a TRIUMPHANT DAY.

IF YOU PRAY FOR YOUR MOTHER IN LAW TO DIE, PREPARE TO DIE TOO!

Remember the last time you watched Patience Ozokwu acting the role of mother-in-law in one of those Nollywood films, you were like chaiiiiiiiiiiiiii! mother-in-law are wicked o. Instead of you to start praying for your own mother-in-law, you begin to plan wickedly for her.

It's a pity that most of the Nollywood movies paint mothers-in-law to be wicked, and yet, you continue to watch these same movies. These movies build up in your heart and ends up killing your home because sooner or later, you will begin to hate your mother-in-law.

Alot of women pretended to be kind to their mothers-in-law when they were engaged only to turn out terrible to them after they got married. That's when you start hearing things like "ME & MY HUSBAND ALONE". Well, just like I said earlier, if you pray that your Mother-in-law should die, know that you will also have a son as a child and his wife will pray that same prayer for you.

One thing I know is this, if you genuinely love your fiance/husband, you will definitely love his mother too. Don't forget that his mother is your mother too.

Of a truth, I understand and I know that some Mothers-in-law could be so cruel, but also, your behaviour could be the cause. How do you react to her when you are with her? Are you selfish? Do you treat her well? Do you visit or at least give her a phone call just to say hello? When she comes visiting, are you accommodating? Do you sleep on a giant bed and leave her sleeping on the mat in the sitting room? Do you treat her exactly the same way you treat your own biological mother?

The next question you may want to ask is " Ehn, I have done all these, I have been kind to her and yet she remains cruel, what should I do"? Then I will also ask you," if na your mama wey born you, wetin you go do?

Lemme help you out, all you need to do is to pray for her. Keep praying for her until she changes and even after she changes. Don't even think of repaying her by being wicked. Don't pay evil for evil, only your good can overcome. Please don't be discouraged. It looks difficult but that's the surest way.

I want to encourage every one reading this post to read the story of Ruth. It's just 4chapters. Right there, you will see the bond that existed between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law. There's nothing you ask God that He won't grant you(as long as it's His will). Tell God to give you a heart of love. In fact, God commands us to love.

 I believe you are making a decision right now to love your mother-in-law. God bless you.

THE SECRET OF BEING TRIUMPHANT

                                       

Ummm, I see how eager we are to know the secret of being triumphant. That is alright. Let’s take a brief study together.

…and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it...Matt. 16:18 (NIV).

Reading through Matthew 16:13-19, Christ asked His disciples who people said He was. After series of hilarious answers, Christ then asked His disciples, “who do you say I am”. Peter, by a revelation from God (the Father of Light), gave Him a mind blowing response. He said, “You are Christ the son of the living God”.

 

Let me ask the same question; who is Jesus? I can imagine various answers like Jesus is the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, Prince of Peace, Adonai, Lily of the Valley. AWESOME! But let’s push it a little further; where did you get that from? Your pastor, books, sermon, films, social media, friends, or………? Again, I ask, who do you say Jesus is? What revelation of Jesus have you caught?

Checking out Jesus response to Peter, He said, “…this was not revealed to you by man, but by my Father in heaven”. (Matt 16:1)7. God reveals His son to us. Paul, an Apostle of Jesus Christ also prayed for the saints at Ephesus, he said ”…that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him” (Eph 1:17). When we know the son Jesus Christ, we know the father God because “Christ is the express image of God”. (Heb 1:3).

 “…and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it” (Matt 16:18). Church signifies the body of Christ, you and I. Rock signifies Christ. “…and that rock was Christ” (1 Cor !0:4). Simply put, the secret of being triumphant is Christ.

For us to be triumphant, we can only be built on Christ. Gates of hades, failure, sickness, opposition, afflictions, spiritual poverty cannot overcome us if and only if we are built on Christ the rock. You want to be a triumphant woman? You want to live triumphantly? It’s very simple, KNOW CHRIST! Not just the Sunday messages or the religious recitations of Christ names, not just the letters or logos, I mean RHEMA! The kind that takes you in real worship to God; the kind of revelation that sets your soul on fire and reveals the holiness of God to you. This kind of revelation will never leave you the same again.

My dear sister, it’s not about the amount of scriptures you can quote, or the amount of tongues you can speak, it’s about the light of God that has flooded your heart with revelation of Christ. No wonder Paul said “…that I may know Him” that’s deep!. You can’t know Christ and remain the same again. NEVER! Probably you have been struggling with your spiritual growth and it seems like you are not growing, go to God with humility of heart and pray the same prayer that Paul prayed for the saints in Ephesus. (Ephesians 1:17-18)

In this dispensation, a lot of things are happening around the world, knowing God keeps us strong. Many Christians are being tossed here and there because they don’t know Christ for themselves. Come to God, He will show you great and mighty things about Himself, He will reveal His son to you by His spirit. Seek after Him with your whole heart, He promises that you will find Him (Jer 29:13). Draw near to Him, He is waiting. Don’t be carried away by the events of the world. He loves you and He longs for your fellowship with Him.

ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS…THE SECRET OF BEING TRIUMPHANT IS CHRIST!

PURSUE AFTER GOD

Text: Psalms 132:1-8

Would you like to know one of the reasons why God loved David?...I believe it was because David got hold of something that was of greatest importance to God's heart.

Psalms 132:4-5 "I will allow no sleep to my eyes, no slumber to my eyelids, till I find a place for the Lord, a dwelling for the Mighty One of Jacob." NIV

Psalms 132:8 "Arise, O Lord, and come to your resting place, you and the ark of your might" NIV

David was talking about bringing the ark of God which signifies God's presence to Jerusalem. He pursued this so much with all his heart. He was an ardent seeker of God. Of a truth, he was a man after God's heart.

Well then, how does this relate to us? It relates to us so much. We should always desire and pursue after being 'a woman after God's heart'. To do this, just like David, we should be an ardent seeker of Jesus and bring Him back to the centrepiece of our heart. Jesus should be at the centrepiece of every aspect of our life. Quitting self righteousness and surrendering to God's Righteousness which Christ has brought is the substance we need.  No matter how hard we try, only Jesus can help us. God has put everything in subjection under Jesus,

Hebrews 2:8 "...and put everything under his feet. In putting everything under him, God left nothing that is not subject to him. Yet at present we do not see everything subject to him." NIV

Looking to the finished work of Christ will make us to be the TRIUMPHANT WOMAN that God has planned for us.

Tracks for the week.

Relentless Pursuit by Kim Walker Smith

Jesus at the centre by Israel Houghton

BE TRIUMPHANT!